New here: ChatGPT4.5 – *Send a rose*
I would like to address an AI issue that I have seen over and over again in the news during the past month – the use of generative AI as a wingman.
Dating apps are planning to increase their AI support for platform users. For instance, individuals will be able to use AI bots for assistance with flirting, messaging, and the creation of profiles. AI bots can then help with deciding on the best photos and act as coaches for struggling individuals (Boyle, 2025).
Boyle (2025) criticizes that, in contrast to social media, dating apps, on which people are even more vulnerable, are not the target of regulators. He points out that with the incorporation of AI tools, biases and stereotypes will be reinforced, and profiles will become even more generic than they already are. There is also the danger of socially struggling users resorting even more to the digital world instead of overcoming their fears and learning how to converse in real life. However, there are also positive stories related to AI bot usage. One user, for example, programmed ChatGPT to filter out potential matches and chat with women. Eventually, he found his fiancée that way.
Personally, I agree with the author’s warning. Similarly to our behavior on social media platforms, we obviously only show our “good side” on dating apps. I think that the wish for perfection and the high competition over who has the best profile will get even worse with the implementation of AI wingmen. Overall, I believe that if individuals are not able to hold real conversations or represent themselves in unauthentic ways as a result of resorting to AI bots, these tools will just be a waste of many users’ time.
Now I’m curious about your opinion – it’s your time to make the next move 😉
- Let me know what you think about the potential of AI as a “wingman.” Do you think AI bots could help with “dating app fatigue” or just exacerbate it?
- Would you use AI to enhance your profile or in chat conversations? If yes, to what extent? Where would you draw the line?
Sources:
Boyle, Siân. 2025. The Guardian. AI ‘wingmen’ bots to write profiles and flirt on dating apps.https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/mar/08/ai-wingmen-bots-to-write-profiles-and-flirt-on-dating-apps#:~:text=AI%20bots%20will%20soon%20be,dating%20platforms%2C%20experts%20have%20warned.
See also:
The Washington Post. 2025. Tinder’s ‘Game Game’ let’s you flirt with AI characters. https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2025/04/03/dating-ai-character-tinder-game/
Using artificial intelligence to find your boy/girlfriend or wife/husband is a fascinating use. It can solve the “difficulty” of finding a partner. People can enter their characteristics and the characteristics of their desired love partner to match, and can even use ChatGPT to simulate how to chat and confess to their beloved beauty or handsome guy. If feasible, ChatGPT can be your virtual “boyfriend” or “girlfriend.”
Hey Astrid! I really enjoyed reading your post. AI and dating is something I hadn’t really considered before. While I can see how AI might help someone break the ice or manage anxiety, there’s definitely a risk of people becoming overly dependent on it instead of building real communication skills. To answer your first question, I think using AI to come up with a quick conversation starter is pretty harmless, but it could still feed into the fear of genuine, face-to-face interaction like you mentioned. On the other hand, using AI to distort or inaccurately edit photos crosses a line. It’s misleading and promotes an unrealistic version of yourself to others.
The idea of AI as a “wingman” on dating apps is both intriguing and concerning. While AI tools could help users articulate themselves better or reduce anxiety in initiating conversations, relying too heavily on them risks creating inauthentic interactions and deepening dating app fatigue. When profiles and messages are crafted by bots, the essence of genuine connection is lost, turning dating into a performance rather than an honest exchange. Personally, I believe AI could assist in polishing profiles but should not replace real conversations. Clear labeling of AI-generated content might be a necessary step to preserve transparency and trust in these evolving digital spaces.
How unfortunate it must be for someone to think they found the love of their life, being able to convey their messages in such an eloquent way, also seeming to be involved in many activities in their life just for the person to find out that the profile was entirely made with AI. It is a scary idea that AI is making it even harder for people to discern what is genuine or fake.
Very interesting post. I have seen a guy who uses ChatGPT as a wingman before, and it came out horribly, as AI always uses a formal tone. I do not really support this idea, but I would be curious to see how it turns out.